In this short blog post, we will briefly tackle key issues relating to genders, sexuality, and equality. This will cover a lot of material. Part two will examine how the genders compliment one another.
God Designed the Genders
Genesis 1:28 God created man in his image. In the image of God he created him. Male and female he created them.
The most basic thing that we can say about ourselves is that God created us in his image. This also means that God intentionally created each of us in the image of God with our gender identity. Every cell in our body tells us that we are a male or a female. Our gender is not determined by our sexual organs. Every part of us, both physically and spiritually, contains our gender.
This truth is so evident that there is research that indicates that those who have a sex change face greater struggles after their sex change.
“Persons with transsexualism, after sex reassignment, have considerably higher risks for mortality, suicidal behavior, and psychiatric morbidity [diseased state] than the general population. Our findings suggest that sex reassignment, although alleviating gender dysphoria, may not suffice as treatment for transsexualism.”(source)
People who feel the need to change their gender in order to find their identity find all kinds of problems that they could not have anticipated. Whether they experience sex change regret or not, like all of us, they reject their Creator and pursue answers and fulfillment in sin. Far worse than that, “what does it profit a man if he gains” his gender identity “and loses his own soul.”
God Designed the Genders to Fit Together
Genesis 2:18 Then the LORD God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”
God designed marriage to be between a man and a woman. This is most obviously true physically, but it is also true emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually. Man and woman are designed physically to enjoy intimacy in a way that two people of the same gender cannot. A fallen, sinful man may pursue and find intimacy with another man in a way that he, in his own mind, could not with a woman. However, that brokenness in the way things should work is a result of sin, not of DNA predestination or “finding who I really am.”
Sin ruins the fit between a man and a woman–sometimes so much that people think they would fit better with someone of their own gender (Romans 1:24-27, 1 Timothy 1:8-11, 16-17). This is not the way God intended to complete us. God has a much better plan for marriage. To reject his pattern for marriage is to reject him. Homosexuality and transgenderism, along with every other sin, estrange us from God and incites his wrath against us.
- Willingness to submit to God’s plan. The Bible teaches clearly on common issues that face our culture: gender identity, sexual identity, homosexuality, marriage, gender roles, etc. We cannot cut and paste. We need to be willing to submit to God’s plan.
- Confidence that these truths are for our good. God does not teach us these things to make as a fence to keep us penned up. The Bible functions as a guardrail to keep us from driving over a cliff. These things were written for our good and God’s glory–which are one and the same. For that reason, we should not be ashamed to say that gender inequality is wrong, or homosexuality is wrong, or gender change is wrong, because not only is it unnatural and immoral, but also because it is broken. Those pursuits can never satisfy, because it is not how God intended it to be, and God’s intentions are for our best. This should cause us to be unashamed and loving as we promote Biblical truth.
- Parents, are you teaching you children from a young age about gender and sexual issues? Children are being taught worldviews that are contrary to God’s teaching in every arena of our culture. If parents do not teach them the beauty of mutual dependency found in a heterosexual marriage relationship, then they may never form categories in their brain for these good truths. Instead, they may try to find fulfillment in everything that our culture says will bring them fulfillment.
The Gospel and Genders
So many people have been broken by sin–their own sin or someone else’s sin against them. Insecurities, shame, lack of identity, and emptiness surround us. Many people are being promised greater security, better self-identity, and more completion through gender changes, or homosexuality, or ‘playing the field,’ or feminism, or chauvinism. Finding pleasure in these things is like trying to catch the wind.
The gospel teaches us that we are broken. It also relentlessly reminds us that, rather than turning to God to heal our brokenness, we turn to more sin. Ephesians 2:1-3 says,
“And you were dead in the trespasses and sins in which you once walked, following the course of this world, following the prince of the power of the air, the spirit that is now at work in the sons of disobedience–among whom we all once lived in the passions of our flesh, carrying out the desires of the body and the mind, and were by nature children of wrath, like the rest of mankind.”
According to these verses, our sin 1) makes us dead, 2) causes us to follow evil influences, 3) causes us to follow the temptations of the devil, 4) causes us to be slaves to the whims of our desires and passions, and 5) causes us to be enemies of God who will receive God’s wrath.
God made us for something better, but we all have rejected our Creator and his moral law. He will justly pour out his wrath on all the disobedient, and no one will escape. All of the terrible effects of sin–insecurity, shame, lack of identity, emptiness, etc.–point us to one terrifying truth: sin results in terrible judgment.
The good news of the gospel is that, although we sin, God loves us. Ephesians 2:4-5 says,
But God, being rich in mercy, because of the great love with which he loved us, even when we were dead in our trespasses, made us alive together with Christ.
Christ Jesus died to take the punishment for our sin. He paid the punishment for homosexuals and hypocrites, for church-goers and atheists, for slaves of sin and slaves of self-righteousness. He died to take the full wrath of God for the sins of the world, so that we could be forgiven. Ephesians 2:8 says,
For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God.
We cannot be good enough to get God’s forgiveness. We cannot earn it. It is God’s gift to us. True belief accepts Christ’s sacrifice for our sins and rests in God’s forgiveness. True faith also rejects the way “we all once lived in the passions of our flesh, carrying out the desires of the body and the mind.” If we believe, we will also repent of our former sins and pursue God’s intended purpose for our life.